DISCLAIMER: No one has ever said that to me.
But I know I’ve thought that about plenty of other people.
Why does it seem like everyone else knows what they’re doing? They get together and go places and read books and take classes and have conversations and eat food and do regular things just like I do, but for some reason, it looks like they’ve got everything so much more under control than I do!
The grass is always greener on the other side, right?
And the irony is… everyone feels this at some point. We’re always jealous of others. Our friends’ and family’s lives seem so much more put together than ours do. She recently got a new car. He was just hired at a fancy restaurant. Their photos get thousands of likes. Her boyfriend treats her like royalty. (She has a boyfriend.) His parents give him so much freedom. Her grades keep climbing and she hardly does any work.
Meanwhile, I’m waiting. Waiting to get my license, get a call back, become popular on social media, start dating, become more responsible, graduate from high school. It can get so overwhelming.
Let’s just take a step back and breathe a minute.
Our lives are not perfect, and they never will be until we get to heaven. No one’s life is as put together as it looks. Everyone thinks their own situation is worse than everyone else’s when it’s just different.
And why should we aim to have perfect jobs, relationships, grades? Even though those are good things, that’s not what this time on earth is about. God never says in his Word, “Thou shalt get your life together.” That’s not what we’re called to. The life of comparison and discontent is not God’s will for us. He has much greater plans! “For this is the will of God, your sanctification,” says 1 Thessalonians 4:3 — and he sanctifies us through our messy lives.
That’s right. He sanctifies us through our messy lives.
Everyone thinks their own situation is worse than everyone else’s when it’s just different.
The daily grind is what molds us. Our imperfections and our problems are what shape us into being more like Christ. We learn from our mistakes, we learn from rejection, we learn from suffering. Sanctification, becoming what God has made us to be, is a much more worthy goal than “having our lives together.”
When we realize God has bigger plans for us than perfect Pinterest lives, we can find rest and comfort in letting go. Oh God, give us hearts for your glory rather than our own!