In the past two days, I’ve made two big decisions regarding my friendships.
One, I’ve decided not to initiate conversations as much. I tend to be clingy and feel like if we’re not talking on a semi-regular basis, we’re not friends — so to hang on, I talk. Well, that’s just not true. Silence does not mean apathy. In fact, if we’re constantly talking, we might be overdoing it. So I’m trying to let others start conversations more, and I’m trying to be content by God’s grace.
My other decision is to not have as many deep conversations via text. I’ll be the first to admit that great conversations can be had over text, but talking on the phone or face to face is so much better. It makes a stronger foundation for a relationship. Right now, most of my friendships feel fragile, as if they could crash any minute, and a huge reason for this is that those friendships are rooted in iMessage. That’s just not healthy! So instead, I want to make a better effort to date my friends. To talk on the phone more, or better yet, go out for coffee. Already this has been such a good decision. More solid foundations are being made for friendships that will (hopefully) last a very long time.
Do you agree with me? Have you made any hard decisions recently? How did they change your life?